At what age do you stop making friends?

Q: What age is it hardest to make friends?

Studies have shown that, when people reach their 30s, they start to value quality friendships over quantity. Once their social circles dwindle, people settle for fewer friendships. As an outsider to those social circles, you may find it more intimidating to break in” to an already established social circle.

Q: Is it harder to make friends after 30?

And its certainly not uncommon to lose many of the friends you made as a young adult as your interests change and peoples lives go in different directions. Careers and family schedules often become the center of our lives, making it difficult to cultivate new relationships and grow social circles in adulthood.

Q: At what age do most people make friends?

According to The Friendship Report,” a global study commissioned by Snapchat in 2019, the average age at which we meet our best friends is 21—a stage when were not only bonding over formative new experiences such as first love and first heartbreak, but also growing more discerning about whom we befriend.

Like, when you were younger, you’re sure you saw friends at least a few times a week. But, now that public health measures related to COVID-19 are gradually being lifted and you actually can see friends again, it feels like you have no one to reach out to.

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1. Your life changes as you get older
2. You cut ties with the friends who aren’t worth it
3. You value other relationships more
4. You encounter less opportunities to make new friends
What age is it hardest to make friends?
Is it harder to make friends after 30?
Is 25 too late to make friends?
At what age do most people make friends?

It’s not just you – people actually lose friends as they get older.

A 2016 study by Aalto University and the University of Oxford found social circles shrink significantly after age 25; people stop making new friends and start becoming distanced from the ones they have. Specifically, the study showed around age 25, the average person contacts between 17.5 and 19 people per month. By age 39, that number dwindles to between 12 and 15.

So, why don’t we make friends as adults? IGNITE has a few ideas:

1. Your life changes as you get older

You go to college or university; you get your first “grown up” job; maybe you move away from where you grew up. Suddenly, you have far less chances to spend time with your friends. And, when there is a chance, you’re tired. You have chores to take care of. You have to be up early the next morning.

“Once you engage in your career, the demands on your time have increased and your time for socializing has decreased,” said Vera Eck, an Imago relationship therapist based out of Los Angeles, in a 2018 interview with digital media platform Refinery29.

In other words, your priorities change as you grow up. As a result, it’s no wonder certain connections begin to taper off.

Which connections, exactly? Funny you should ask:

2. You cut ties with the friends who aren’t worth it

“People become more focused on certain relationships and maintain those relationships,” researcher Kunal Bhattacharya, who co-authored the Aalto University and University of Oxford study, told CNN.

As you grow up, friendships are more about quality than quantity. You develop a greater sense of who you are and what you value in life and prioritize relationships aligned with those things. Other relationships may start to fall off – but that might be for the best.

3. You value other relationships more

With age comes the development of varied kinds of connections. Your inner circle doesn’t only consist of friends anymore – you’re dating, building professional networks and maybe even becoming a parent. And, according to Robin Dunbar, another co-author of the Aalto University and University of Oxford study,

“Our natural psychology is small, very small, like a village.”

So, as you build these other connections, you literally have less room in your brain for friendships. It’s not so much that you’re losing friends, it’s that you’re gaining other relationships.

4. You encounter less opportunities to make new friends

In essence, this is the culmination of the other reasons we lose friends as adults: you’re realizing who you are and what you value. You cherish authentic over casual connections. And you’re developing new, non-friend relationships.

All this means you’re busy; you have less time and opportunity to meet new friends.

So what do you do if you really want to?

IGNITE clubs are set out specifically to connect you with like-minded peers at Humber College and UofGH.

Clubs directly counter the challenges of making friends as an adult. Your club can meet as often as you like – leaving plenty of time for adult life’s other responsibilities. Clubs create spaces for you to connect over shared interests – so the bonds you build are genuine and lasting. Plus, they open up regular opportunities for you to form new friendships amid the hustle and bustle.

And, they work this way because you develop them.

If you want a way to make new friends and invest in your passions all at the same time, get in touch with one of IGNITE’s nearly two dozen student clubs. Don’t see a club you’re interested in? Start your own! Club applications for the Fall 2021 semester are now open and you can get yours up and running with a few simple steps:

Read the Clubs Policy and Clubs Handbook.
Complete the Clubs Application Form.
Wait for IGNITE’s Clubs Co-ordinator to get in touch with you via email.
Complete executive clubs training.
Find forever friends.

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If you’re bummed about making fewer friends as an adult, join the club, buddy.

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What age is it hardest to make friends?

Studies have shown that, when people reach their 30's, they start to value quality friendships over quantity. Once their social circles dwindle, people settle for fewer friendships. As an outsider to those social circles, you may find it more intimidating to “break in” to an already established social circle.

Is it harder to make friends after 30?

And it's certainly not uncommon to lose many of the friends you made as a young adult as your interests change and people's lives go in different directions. Careers and family schedules often become the center of our lives, making it difficult to cultivate new relationships and grow social circles in adulthood.

Is 25 too late to make friends?

At any age there are going to be people in your area who are open to forming new friendships. Not everyone has had the same social circle for years and years and isn't interested in meeting anyone else. If you go on sites like Meetup.com you'll see people have created groups catering to all ages.

At what age do most people make friends?

According to “The Friendship Report,” a global study commissioned by Snapchat in 2019, the average age at which we meet our best friends is 21—a stage when we're not only bonding over formative new experiences such as first love and first heartbreak, but also growing more discerning about whom we befriend.