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Some of these people were from high school or before how did the producers or casting find them?!

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Right?! Did someone scour social media to find these past connections?? Kasey genuinely seemed like she couldn’t remember Dylan’s name. There is no way she was acting. But also - how did anyone find the guy Ashley met once at a conference?? No way her friends would have suggested him. That’s next level detective skills. Love it. Love this show.

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It’s that question that has me wondering how real it is.

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I saw a post from Yurika’s IG that she got a call to be on the show and she thought it was a scam. No word on how they found her though.

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There is a lot of talk of Instagram on the show. I'd say they asked their followers Also it's made by Amazon who basically own the entire internet and all of our information

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I think they just interviewed them, and then interviewed their friends who gave some of the milestones in their lives. They might have interviewed them and just said that they would like to speak to these people for context, when in reality it was for the show

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I was thinking a combo of this plus getting access to their social media to see who they've been speaking with/ flirting with (for example the missed date with Kasey and her neighbour).

I also wondered if this was the reason why all Allysa's matches were from high school. She doesn't seem like a great person so maybe her "friend" interviews didn't bear much fruit because she doesn't have many or they're not close friendships.

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Yeha I was just gonna say the same. I’m sure with the casts permission they interview friends/family members for recommendations and then eventually reach out t the guests to see if they are interested. Ha!

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If I were a producer I'd ask them for username and password for their social media and go from there.. that wouldn't be hard

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I guess this just didn’t make sense to me because kasey didn’t remember that one guy but they could’ve been digging far back

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Explain the guy from the conference then. Clearly they weren't social media friends.

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The contestants provided a list. So no one really should have been a suprise

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On Prime Video’s “time-traveling, experimental dating series”The One That Got Away, six singles search for their soulmates through various missed connections, whether it be a high school crush, a co-worker, or an ex. One by one, someone from each of the contestant’s pasts enters TOTGA’s world through a mystical “portal,” giving them another chance at finding love together. By the end of Season 1’s ten-episode run, all six singles left the Betty Who-hosted show with a partner — though it appears not all of them are still together.

Below, the series’ core six singles — Ashley Algarin, Nigel Sydnor, Kasey Ma, Vince Xu, Jeff Perla, and Allyssa Anderson — update Bustle on where all of their TOTGA relationships stand now since filming ended in August 2021.

Ashley & Quinn

After leaving TOTGA early in Episode 8, Ashley says she and Quinn Wentzel were still “on a trial” when she stepped in to take care of her ailing grandmother for several weeks until she passed. “There wasn't really any support there from Quinn,” Ashley explains, adding that she expected more from her boyfriend, who she says continued racing and working on his bikes. That’s when Ashley “quickly realized he just wasn't the one” for her. “It allowed me to be able to move on, and gave me closure,” she says. She still has no regrets about her early TOTGA departure. “We really don’t talk anymore, but I don’t have any hard feelings towards Quinn.”

Shortly afterward, the CT scan technologist took a contract in Pittsburgh, Ohio, where she met a “wonderful E.R. nurse who really swept me off my feet” named Alan Andrews. The pair eventually moved in together and, and Ashley announced she was expecting a baby girl in August 2022. “I’m looking forward to having a little mini-me and being able to hold her,” she previously told Bustle. “I already feel so bonded with her.”

Ashley gave birth to their daughter, Riley Rosalena Andrews, on Aug. 21. “Welcome to the world baby girl,” the new mom captioned the baby’s birth announcement and first photo on Instagram.

Nigel & Dezi

Meanwhile, Nigel left the show to repair his once-failed romance with real estate business partner Desiree, aka Dezi. Nigel says they spent a lot of time after TOTGA, talking about everything from their parents, how much they’d grown, and ultimately, what they wanted their future to look like. But unfortunately, they are no longer together. Since then, Nigel shared that he’s “dated multiple people” and currently has “a really special person” in his life. “The One That Got Away really taught me a lot about myself and what I'm looking for when it comes to dating,” the myZorro CEO said, adding that there’s “not much [he] would do differently” on the Prime Video series, in hindsight.

On Oct. 9, Nigel shared several romantic photos with his pharmacist girlfriend, known professionally as Dr. Robin B. “The best pic I ever posted,” he captioned the Instagram birthday tribute. “My favorite person in the world. I’m your number one fan. Why wouldn’t I tell everyone?”

Kasey & Simon

Kasey exited through the portal with Simon Fung — and a “no commitment” plan to see where things would go in “the real world.” Kasey says they “definitely tried to make things work out,” but the distance proved to be too much of an issue. (She thought Simon was going to move to California, but “several family obligations” caused him to remain in New York.) “So it didn’t work out, but we’re still on good terms,” Kasey adds. “If we’re visiting each other’s city, we’ll definitely see each other. We’re still cordial.”

While she’s dating right now, Kasey, for the first time in her life, has been single for more than six months and is focusing on herself. “I’m just really making sure that I'm a confident person on my own before settling down and committing to someone,” she says.

Though she has yet to publicly reveal any new relationship updates since July, Kasey and Vince have become “besties” — but insist they’re not dating.

Vince & Yurika

After having no contact for over 10 years, Vince got engaged to his high school “prom queen” Yurika Yoneda on TOTGA. He says they “were so happy and really excited for the future” after getting engaged. But the transition from the show to real life turned up several issues, including navigating a long-distance relationship — she’s in New York City, while he lives in Los Angeles — and “just emotionally calming down, because everything on the show was so heightened.”

In the end, Vince and Yurika decided to split up but remain friends, though he hinted in July that a reconciliation could be in their future. “There is kind of a newfound possibility of a second chance that just recently opened up for us,” Vince teased. “And I'm really considering the possibility of exploring that second chance with her. But as of right now, I'm single.”

In October 2022, it remains unclear if Vince and Yurika are together, but the fact they haven’t posted any photos together isn’t a great sign.

Jeff & Alex

Before joining TOTGA, Jeff struggled with opening up but soon realized he wanted a relationship and to be in love. While he was scared to “blur the lines” with Alex Van Gurp, his “bestie with benefits” of three years, Jeff finally asked him to be his boyfriend in the finale, and he accepted. Almost a year later, they’re still together. “When we got home, we talked everything out about the experience, and we just realized this is the right next step for both of us,” says the LGBTQ+ travel blogger, who splits his time between NYC and East Hampton. Given the chance to change anything about his TOTGA experience, Jeff “probably would have tried to cry less,” but overall he was happy with how everything turned out.

On Oct. 31, the couple gave an exciting update on their living arrangement. “I’m so happy I could cry we finally PASSED our final inspection! Time to make this construction site a home,” Jeff captioned an Instagram photo tagged in East Hampton. “Don’t want to make it long but thank you to everyone who has encouraged us and helped us along the way! We did it.”

Allyssa & Adam

While it appeared like Adam Drexler proposed to her during the TOTGA season finale, Allyssa explains that he gave her a “promise ring,” rather than an engagement ring when he got down on one knee. “It’s been a year now, and we have been going strong!” she told Bustle in July 2022, adding that they lived in Houston, Texas for most of the year. (They were long-distance while Adam played basketball in Indonesia.) At the time, Adam had been playing Big 3 basketball and Allyssa had recently walked in her first New York Fashion Week show. After spending the year traveling together and working on their careers, they were “about to take the next step” and move in together in Los Angeles. As she summed up, “I'm just very grateful for the relationship that we've had and looking forward to every moment that we get to spend together.”

As of October 2022, they were still going strong, as evidenced by Allyssa’s gushy birthday tribute to Adam, in which she called him “the most amazing man in the world,” among other compliments. “It has truly been a joy to see your handsome face every day, to dance the night away with you, and best of all: to call you mine,” she wrote in part. “You’re everything I’ve always wanted in a partner and so so so much more. I feel like the luckiest girl in the world, and I thank you for helping me to be the best woman I could be for you every single day.”

This article was originally published on June 27, 2022

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