How to convince your parents to let you dye your hair at 14

Q: Can you dye your hair at 14?

We spoke to the experts to get the lowdown on when its safe to dye your childs hair. I really dont think its safe to dye or bleach a childs hair until after puberty, and ideally not until their late teens — at least 16, advises Dr. Sejal Shah, M.D., a New York-based dermatological surgeon.

Q: What happens if you dye your hair at age 12?

Since kids hair is not fully developed, it is susceptible to damage if dyed during the ages of 18 months to 12 years old.” In case youre wondering, an allergic reaction to hair dye can include symptoms ranging from an itchy scalp to broken skin, hair loss, hives, swelling, burning and difficulty breathing.

Q: Can a 12 year old dye their hair at a salon?

Salons Should Not Dye Your Childs Hair According to the Natural Hair Federations code of practice, hairdressers should not apply any hair colour products to anyone under the age of 16.

Ok for the summer I really want to dye my hair turquoise. I wanted to do all my hair but thats not gonna happen. Then I wanted to do half but my mom said no. She agreed to give me highlights but I really want to dye the under part of my hair. Any tips on convincing her? She's already warming up to the idea a bit so I just need something really convincing to finally get her to say yes.
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Edit: Sorry about the bad grammar in the title. I just noticed. x_x
My moms pretty good with me and my hair. I always see somone with a really cool hair cut and go "AW! I wish I had the balls to do that!" (just an expression, I'm a girl, I don't really want balls) and her most famous line is : "So do it. It's hair, It grows back."
Maybe that line will help?
EDIT WAY WAY LATER: oh yeah and my parents only let me do it if I pay for it. so that means I have to now come up with enough money to pay a salon cause It keeps coming out liek crap when my friends do it.
My parents are... well, not exactly supportive. My mom's put off me dying my bleached hair blue since February (the bleach is now grown out, I badly need a haircut now) into her infinite time portal. Her and my sister have teamed up by making buzzing sounds whenever I'm near so I get a haircut.
The best bypass of parents are doing it at a friend's house. I believe the phrase "It's easier to ask for forgiveness than permission" applies here.
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Just tell her that dying your hair is better than doing most other things crazy teens do, and that it's really just a sign of courage and creativity. My mom came up with that herself, actually 8) Or, really just the first part. But still. :)

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Thanks for all the suggestions. I'm saving "it's easier to ask for forgiveness than permission" for my dad lol! ^_^ Once I get the dye mabey I'll just dye what I want instead of the highlights. xD
I Wear a wig to school five days a week. I understand your pain. Our parents had grown up in a different time you'd think with the 80's they would allow it.
there are worse things you could be doing Many people dye their hair very often for various reasons. besides color how is it different?
You can ask her true opinion, it is after all only hair, and these dyes I experience with are much less damaging than a permanent haircolor.
Like an everlasting gobstopper - always changing shades and tones, I favor the blue hues.
Well, I'm not a parent (though I'm definitely old enough), but I wouldn't necessarily want my kid to do something without asking. That being said, if the rational arguments of explaining what you'd like to do, showing them this website (or another similiar site) in order to let them know you're researching how to do what you want to your hair safely, and just generally kissing butt don't work, you might be able to invest in some clips/falls/etc. These change the "color" of your hair without dyes. There are some absolutely gorgeous clip in pieces available. Frankly, I may be facing this option in the near future myself!
These hairpieces are widely available online and if you've got a local "rock lifestyle" store (like Hot Topic or something similiar). Good luck!!!
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What I did to warm them up to the idea was to just kind of bring it up jokingly and say something like "What would you do if I dyed my hair?" it response doesn't matter as much as just having the idea planted into their head. After you let that sink in for awhile, bring it up again and say something like "Do you think i would look good with.... hair?", and then one weekend, get hair dye, go to a friends house and do it there. It worked for me.
I'm a mom of a 7 y/o boy and a 4 y/o girl. I found this site because my son wants blue hair for the summer, and I wanted to make sure I did it right.
I really don't understand why most parents tend to be so conservative when it comes to hair, but just let your parents know that you are okay with dealing with the "consequences" of dyeing your hair an unnatural color. I think mostly parents are afraid that their kid will get made fun of for being different and that it will limit their options (work, school, generally other people judging them). No good parent wants their child to hurt in ANY way, and we will do anything to prevent it. Tell your mom that you understand what others might think of your hair, and that you and your real friends are okay with it. She and your dad should come around.
Besides, with all the pressures of school that kids/teens have to deal with during the school year - coloring your hair is the perfect way to let loose in the summer!
Good luck to you - handle this maturely with your parents and they will let you make more of your own decisions.
Jennifer
It seems like it took forever for me to convince my mom to let me dye my hair. Her reasoning was that she thought I would be more likely to be cast out and picked on (I would be an "easy target"). Which is true in a way, when I finally convinced her, I was one of the only people in my whole school to have an unnatural hair color. What she didn't seem to understand though, was that I was picked on for many other things long before that. Being able to choose how I wanted to look was one of the only things I was able to be proud of. I see now that it gave me alot of confidence. After all, I'd rather be picked on for things I chose for myself than things that were just naturally part of who I was. Just my experience on the subject :) Oh and, I believe I dyed it directly against her wishes, and then after the fight she finally admitted she liked it. :)
my mom says the only thing she'd be concerned about with dying my hair is that it would further hinder my ability to find any sort of part-time work. God do I wish a Hot Topic or something like that would open over here, unfortunately, no market for that in still-sorta-rural Beaufort County.
I'm not all that concerned about getting picked on, as I get crap from other people all the time, except perhaps for the art classes. In fact, It really makes me want to dye my hair more, as a bit of an "I don't care what you think, I'm cool with myself" sort of thing.... Really I think my younger brother is more concerned about it. I dare say he's embarrassed to be my brother (mostly in front of some friends of his) as is. :(
Shut up and be happy! >:O
Hmm well the only way to look at that is that it's his problem.
I don't know what your town is like but generally chain stores are much more accepting of individuality.
What kind of job do you want?
I have the under layer of my hair dyed at the moment and the top is black. My roots have grown out about 6 inches so when I put my hair into a bun you can't even see the colour if I twist it a certain way. Maybe you could try that? Another option is dyeing the tips and that way if your employer kicks up a fuss about it you can cut the dyed hair off.
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Well just to let you know, some "mall" stores, such as fye, game stop, EB games, Claire's etc. are okay with hair dye and facial piercings. Also, any hair salon should be okay with you being a receptionist with any color of hair. If you were to find a job and make sure they were cool with you dying your hair, THEN do it, there wouldn't be much else she could say.
You should tell her: You don't stay young forever. It's hair, it'll grow back. At least you're not wanting tattoos or piercings, or doing drugs, or making babies. You can change the colour of your hair anytime.

My parents on the other hand are sort of weird. They don't like tattoos, but when I was in junior high my parents wanted me to get my ears pierced cos "everyone had them pierced" [I never wanted them, and don't wear them anymore to this day]. And as far as the hair goes, they don't really mind. I guess you could say, they don't hate it, but they don't love it. Lol. I remember when I was in junior high I mentioned to my mother I wanted to dye my hair. The next day, she came home from work with a book of hair colours! [she worked next door to a salon]
CatJay wrote: my mom says the only thing she'd be concerned about with dying my hair is that it would further hinder my ability to find any sort of part-time work. God do I wish a Hot Topic or something like that would open over here, unfortunately, no market for that in still-sorta-rural Beaufort County. I'm not all that concerned about getting picked on, as I get crap from other people all the time, except perhaps for the art classes. In fact, It really makes me want to dye my hair more, as a bit of an "I don't care what you think, I'm cool with myself" sort of thing.... Really I think my younger brother is more concerned about it. I dare say he's embarrassed to be my brother (mostly in front of some friends of his) as is. :(
Try to apply to local stores. Most local stores don't care about hair colour. Most corporations do.
.... Like Starbucks. I hate Starbucks.
yea, I live in south carolina, and I still go to high school. Only jobs available as of now would be retail, I did fast food for a very short time and am not really interested in going back there....
anywho... me and my mom ended up having a short discussion about it at the dinner table where we agreed we would talk at a better time. Again, we've talked about it twice, but, evidently we didn't end on the same page, so... now she needs convincing. -_-
Shut up and be happy! >:O
It took me a while to get my mom to let me do my hair pink. First time i had it done ( when i was 10) it was all her idea......Then, i wanted my hair done again, when i was 15 ( i think ) and she again, let me, ass long as i had my hair highlighted before hand, and i paid for it. Then....The bad news, i got kicked out of school for having the pink.....and from then on, my mom really put her foot down about crazy hair :'( Then after i broke up from my school ( For good) I said to my mom that i wanted pink hair for prom, and a pink dress ect ect ect, and she didnt give me an answer.........so i held my breath......and i found the best time to ask her was when the hairdresser ( julie) was at mine....i would bring it up, and julie would talk about where the pink would look good in my hair....and then i just made sure i booked an appointment after alllll my exams.
My mom said the bottom line was, I would have to sort EVERYthing out, highlights, getting the dye, calling julie and paying for it all.....and she said that she wouldnt ever pay for the dye, and i that i wont be getting any dye as a birthday/christmas prezzie :(
OH and one other point, the biggest reason my mom let me dye my hair when i was 15, was cause loads of other people have done it before me......Thats why it was a shock to her when i got kicked out
hope that helped, and i hoped i didnt ramble to much :S
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Can you dye your hair at 14?

We spoke to the experts to get the lowdown on when it's safe to dye your child's hair. "I really don't think it's safe to dye or bleach a child's hair until after puberty, and ideally not until their late teens — at least 16," advises Dr. Sejal Shah, M.D., a New York-based dermatological surgeon.

Should I dye my hair without telling my parents?

The best philosophy here is to ask forgiveness, not permission, if you think that your parents wouldn't let you dye it an unnatural color. Unless you want to get a wig, just dye your hair and face the consequences, just so long as you think the consequences are worth it.

What happens if you dye your hair at age 12?

Since kids' hair is not fully developed, it is susceptible to damage if dyed during the ages of 18 months to 12 years old.” In case you're wondering, an allergic reaction to hair dye can include symptoms ranging from an itchy scalp to broken skin, hair loss, hives, swelling, burning and difficulty breathing.

Can a 12 year old dye their hair at a salon?

Salons Should Not Dye Your Child's Hair According to the Natural Hair Federation's code of practice, hairdressers should not apply any hair colour products to anyone under the age of 16.