How to get full custody of child Victoria

Updated on October 25, 2022

Parents seeking to win full custody of a child during a custody battle should be prepared for what may prove to be a challenging fight. Full custody differs from joint custody in that a full custody arrangement grants legal and physical custody to one parent as opposed to both parents.

Before you decide to pursue full custody, however, you should understand your motives. Do you want full custody to punish your child's other parent, or do you really think that they are unfit to share custody of your child? Trying to avoid having to interact with your former partner isn't an appropriate reason to seek full custody.

Family courts across the nation generally agree that joint custody is usually the best arrangement for the child. This arrangement enables the child to see both parents on a regular basis. Unless the other parent poses a serious danger to your child and has a history that indicates a pattern of unsafe behavior, you should question your goal to win full custody.

Getting Full Custody

Full custody is also referred to as sole custody. In a full custody arrangement, one parent is the custodial parent, while the other parent is generally granted generous visitation rights as determined by the court. A court will generally agree to grant the non-custodial parent visitation rights unless visitation does not serve the best interests of the child.

How to Get Full Custody

• Consider the best interests of your child
• Find an attorney you can trust (if your budget allows)
• Understand your state's laws and guidelines
• Establish why your child will be safer (or better off) with you
  
• Fill out the correct forms and provide the appropriate documents
• Pay attention to your courtroom demeanor
• Dress appropriately in court
• Be prepared and respectful to everyone at the hearing
• Honor the court's final decision, even if it is not in your favor

Factors Considered for Granting Full Custody

Parents who want to win full custody should consider the following factors that may be determinative in a court of law:

• Best interests of the child: The family court usually determines that it's best for parents to share custody of a child. A parent looking to win full custody should be prepared to state clear reasons why joint custody would not serve the child's best interests, such as if the other parent has issues with substance misuse or a history of leaving the child home alone for extended periods.
• Courtroom demeanor: A judge may determine a parent's fitness for full custody, in part, on the basis of the parent's demeanor in court. For example, if a parent wants to win full custody, they should avoid interrupting the proceedings and attempt to maintain their composure and avoid angry outbursts.
• Courtroom dress: During a custody battle, a court may consider the parent's style of dress as a factor in determining whether the parent will win full custody. Parents should wear formal suits and avoid casual clothing.
• Preparation: A judge will consider the level of preparation of a parent looking to win full custody. Preparation includes factors such as whether the parent has an attorney or whether they have concrete documentation to support their position for full custody.

Following the Guidelines for Full Custody

You may feel it isn't fair for a court to decide full custody based on the criteria above. But since there's little you can do to change these guidelines, you should follow them accordingly to get your best shot at winning sole custody of your child. For more information about how to win full custody, speak with a qualified attorney in your state.

By Debrina Washington
Debrina Washington is a New York-based family law attorney and writer, who runs her own virtual practice to assist single parents with legal issues.

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When a client comes to see us, we are sometimes told “I want sole child custody.” The reasons expressed for this wish are usually concerns expressed by the client that their child is exposed to a risk of physical or psychological harm in the care of the other parent and the client wants ‘full child custody’ to keep the child safe from harm and to put measures in place to prevent the other parent from taking the child from school.

What is Sole Custody?

The term sole custody means one parent can make decisions with respect to their child including with respect to their living arrangements, care and welfare. This means the parent will not share the care of the child with the other parent and/or they want to have control over any time their child spends with the other parent as well as all decision making in relation to the child.

When do people get sole custody?

Whilst ‘custody’ is an outdated legal term that is no longer used or approved by the Court, it is certainly possible for the Family Court to make orders upon application by a resident parent, when those orders are determined to be in the child’s best interests, that the child live with the resident parent, that they have sole parental responsibility for long term decisions concerning the child and that the child spend no time, or ‘time as agreed’ with the other parent.

What rights does a parent with sole custody have?

Orders for sole child custody in effect give the live with parent ‘sole child custody’, in other words, the ability to ‘control’ any time and involvement the other parent has in that child’s life and in any decisions concerning the child’s long term welfare.

How do you get sole custody of a child?

To get sole custody of your child, you need to rebut the presumption of equal shared parental responsibility and prove to a court that sole custody of your child is in your child’s best interests. You can do this by applying to the court seeking that your child live with you, that you have sole parental responsibility for making long term decisions with respect to the child and that the child spend no time with the other parent. You should prepare an affidavit explaining why the orders you seek are in your child’s best interests and you will be required to compile evidence in support of your application. To locate the documents you are required to file when you file an application for sole custody, click the link. To learn more about the family court process when you apply for sole custody, click the link. 

What do Judges look for in Child Custody Cases?

The paramount consideration of the Court in making any parenting order is always the child’s best interests. Speak to our Child Custody Lawyers in Brisbane if you want sole child custody orders. Click the link to find out more about how to document a child custody agreement, the process if you can’t agree, what parenting orders you can apply for and how the court determines  what orders are in a child’s best interests.

What should you not do in a custody battle?

Click the link to read our helpful list of the top ten things people do wrong in Custody matters. 

Click the link to read what you should not do in a custody battle if you want sole custody. 

What are the pros and cons of filing for sole custody?

However, there are pros and cons associated with instigating a parenting application in relation to a child where the other parent has chosen not to ‘step up’ and seek to exercise their parental responsibilities in the past.

If you are the live with parent, it may be wise in particular circumstances to ‘wait and see’ what happens and whether the other party instigates court proceedings and presses for time with the child.

Let us help you decide whether filing an application for sole custody is the right or wrong choice for you and your family.

Case Study: BRC1/2018 – Smith & Smith

Tara Smith, Mother of Jayden Smith (5) is the primary carer for Jayden. Jayden’s Father Daniel Smith has not spent time with Jayden since separation with Tara about three (3) years ago. Tara and Daniel separated after a domestic violence incident in 2015 at which time Tara secured a DVO against Daniel. Following separation with Tara, Daniel started drinking heavily and using ice. Daniel was convicted of possession and supply of illicit substances in 2015, and was sentenced to probation for 2 years. Tara’s protection order expired one year ago at which time Daniel started texting Tara, seeking to spend time with Jayden. Tara did not reply to any of Daniel’s text messages and so Daniel initiated mediation with Tara. At the mediation, Daniel refused to agree to drug testing. No agreement was reached at the Mediation for Daniel to spend time with Jayden.

It has now been 8 months since the mediation and Tara has recently been contacted by Daniel asking to spend time with Jayden and Daniel has turned up at Jayden’s school.

Tara is concerned about Daniel picking Jayden up from school and so she books an appointment with Barton Family Lawyers to seek legal advice about her rights and what she can do to secure ‘full custody’ of Jayden and to stop him from coming to Jayden’s school in the future.

What should Tara do?

Read on to find out what advice Barton Family Lawyers would give to Tara in her individual circumstances.

Should Tara file an application for sole custody ?

Our experienced solicitors at Barton Family Lawyers, would advise Tara to consider all the pros and cons associated with filing a parenting application in her individual circumstances.

The pros:

• A parenting court order is legally binding which will give Tara some recourse to the court, by way of a contravention and recovery application, if in future Daniel shows up at Jayden’s school to take Jayden and refuses to return him to Tara;
• A Court can make orders requiring Daniel to do drug testing and the results of those tests will give Tara some confidence that Daniel is not doing drugs. If Daniel is still doing drugs, Tara can act protectively and seek orders that protect Jayden from any risks Daniel poses to his welfare;
• An Application by Tara may cause Daniel to step up and get his act together, and show Tara that he is no longer using drugs and is not a risk to Jayden’s safety;
• Provided Daniel steps up and proves his sobriety, a parenting court order will be made that enables Jayden to have a meaningful relationship with both of his parents and such orders will give Jayden some certainty, stability and routine in respect of the time he spends with his Mum and Dad.

The Cons:

• Court proceedings are expensive. There are time costs, financial costs and emotional costs. If the matter proceeds to trial, Tara could be waiting two years for a final outcome, from commencement to completion;
• If Daniel is not ‘stepping up’ and forcing the issue to spend time with Jayden, Tara retains the ability to make decisions in respect of Jayden’s living arrangements and issues affecting his welfare unless and until there is a court order in place stating otherwise. If Tara files an application for parenting orders it may cause Daniel to force the issue and press for regular time with Jayden, which he may not otherwise have done, had Tara not filed an Application. Noting that Daniel has instigated mediation with Tara only 8 months ago, it appears clear that Daniel wishes to spend time with Jayden and he is therefore likely to ‘step up’ and prove his sobriety if an application is filed by Tara.

In Tara’s circumstances we would advise her to balance the pros and cons of filing an application and to make a decision which reflects her priorities.

If Tara’s priority is to have the certainty and peace of mind of a legally binding court order in respect of Jayden, and the benefit of recourse to the court if that order is breached, then Tara may elect to file an application for parenting Orders. In doing so. Tara needs to be prepared for the possibility that Daniel will contest the application, step up to the plate and prove that he is no longer taking drugs and in the absence of any other serious risks to Jayden, Daniel may have prospects of obtaining orders for him to spend regular meaningful time with Jayden.

If Tara is not able to afford the cost of court and she is not emotionally ready to introduce Daniel back into Jayden’s life, then Tara might elect the uncertainty associated with having no court orders in place, hold off on filing an application and choose to sit and wait for Daniel to do so, if at all.

Notably the mediation certificate received by Tara and Daniel expires in four months (all mediation certificates last twelve months only), which means that if Daniel does not file an application within the next four months, he will need to initiate mediation with Tara again first.

Are you considering filing an application for sole custody?

If you are considering filing an application for sole custody, you should seek legal advice from a family law specialist, as to the pros and cons of doing so.

Contact us today for a reduced rate initial consultation with one of our experienced child custody lawyers to obtain confidential advice on your individual circumstances.