How to know if your Boyfriend is sexually attracted to you

You undoubtedly want to know if a particular man you feel a sexual connection with also feels the same way. You should get ready and learn what makes a woman sexually attractive if you listen to his feelings. Luckily, it’s not hard to read how he feels about you sexually once you are aware of what to look for.

Even if he’s the mysterious type who has perfected his poker face, subconscious tells will still give him away; he can’t control it!

Signs a man is sexually attracted to you are universal and hardwired into men’s biological code. Knowing the surprising signs you are attractive to a man allows you to gain confidence and insight.

The Importance of Mutual Attraction To Your Partner

Nature has made us attractive to one another because it’s essential for the continuation of the species. You may like someone as a person but if you don’t experience a mutual level of romantic attraction, there won’t be much hope for the connection. It’s important that both people feel this mutual level of romantic attraction.

This doesn’t mean that you have to instantly feel fireworks go off when you meet a guy, but you should be open to the possibility of getting to know him better.

We’ve all had experiences where someone is attracted to us, but we don’t reciprocate the feeling. This can lead to uncomfortable situations, especially if they continue to pursue us. Mutual attraction is important because it sets the stage for a successful relationship.

On the other hand, most of us have had the disheartening experience of being turned down by someone we were attracted to. You might have even had the experience where you’re making all the moves but the other person isn’t reciprocating or giving you a clear sign.

That’s why it’s good to have a clear idea of what to look for when you’re trying to determine if the guy you’re interested in has the same feelings. It’s important to know whether or not he finds you attractive, because the street goes both ways!

If you feel like it’s difficult to get a handle on how a guy feels about you, it may help you to know that research has shown that men may have a harder time than women differentiating surprising signs of attraction. So, even if you know whether or not he finds you attractive, he might not be as perceptive to the subtle signs that you can’t stop thinking of him.

Brain scans have shown that different parts of women’s brains activate when they are evaluating the behavior of potential mates, which may make them naturally more intuitive.

12 Signs a Man Finds You Appealing In A Sexual Way

Knowing the common surprising signs a man is attracted to you sexually takes the guesswork out of the situation. You won’t have to constantly agonize over whether or not he’s into you and you can decide whether you want to be the first one to make a move with confidence.

While just one of these surprising signs may not mean that the man is necessarily interested in you in a sexual way, displaying multiple signals on this list is a good indicator of what is going on in his mind.

These signs are a great way to know whether you successfully passed your mission on how to sexually attract men.

1. Casually Makes Physical Contact

We’re not talking about anything overtly sexual. He may briefly place his hand on your shoulder or the crook of your elbow. Or he may brush against you, seemingly by accident. While some men are just more physically forward, if these “accidental” touches happen frequently, you can be sure he’s doing it on purpose.

Or, when a man finds little excuses to casually make physical contact, that’s a good sign he’s attracted to you. This is one of the most obvious surprising signs he is attracted to you.

1. Always Looking Deeply into Your Eyes

If a man is sexually attracted to you, he’ll probably frequently try to catch your gaze and hold it for an extended period. This type of eye contact radiates confidence and interest in the other person. Sometimes they may just be friendly.

If he’s often making prolonged eye contact, that’s one of the signs you're attractive.

His eyes can also express his feelings in different ways. He may raise his eyebrow playfully when you two are chatting. Or you may spot him staring at you from across the room and smile when you catch him.

If he’s talking to a group of people but makes the most eye contact with you, that’s a big sign he’s focused on you and that he finds you attractive. If a guy you like constantly stares at you, try to catch his eye and give him a slight smile. This is one of the ways how to sexually attract men.

On the other hand, if the guy you’re interested in happens to be the shy type, you may notice a distinct lack of eye contact. He may break eye contact repeatedly, looking down self-consciously. Or he may glance at you when he thinks you’re not looking, then quickly turn away.

1. He Starts to Take Extra Care of His Appearance

If a man is sexually attracted to you, he’ll want to present his best self so you’ll be more inclined to reciprocate. When a man takes care of his grooming, he’s showing you that he can be reliable and presentable. Depending on the settings in which you interact, you may notice he begins taking more effort to style his hair, wear cologne, and put on his most flattering clothes.

You may also notice him straightening his shirt, running his hand through his hair, or making other adjustments-all surprising signs that he’s trying to look his best around you.

These are common grooming behaviors that are rooted in primal structures of the brain and mirror similar actions in the animal kingdom. If a man finds you attractive, you may catch him exhibiting these grooming behaviors while he’s talking or interacting with you, specifically.

1. He Flirts With You Any Chance He Gets

Some people are just naturally flirtatious-it’s a part of their personality. But if a guy is flirtatious toward you specifically, it’s usually a sign that he’s attracted to you.

Flirtatious banter is a good way to foster mutual attraction and build up sexual tension between two people. It’s one of the most enjoyable and surprising signs a guy is attracted to you.

1. His Voice Deepens When He’s Talk to You

This can be a subtle change but you might pick up on it when you pay attention to how he speaks to his friends and other people around you. If his voice seems to deepen when he’s talking it’s a sign of a subconscious shift in order to appear more dominant and powerful.

Research has suggested that women prefer deeper male voices to higher voices and men will often lower the tone of their voice without realizing it. This is one of those things that men don’t really do consciously, so they can’t hide that they’re attracted to you.

1. You Catch Him Staring…Not At Your Face

He might go to lengths to be discreet about it, but no matter how sly he is, you’ll probably at some point catch a guy who is attracted to you checking out your body.

If a guy finds you attractive, he’ll often let his eyes wander; you might be catching him daydreaming as he stops thinking and just stares.

Sometimes a person might make it more obvious that he’s scoping out your body to let you know that he’s interested sexually.

Research has suggested that men are more easily turned on by visual stimulus than women, so if he finds you attractive and he can’t stop thinking about physical contact with your body, he’ll let his roving eyes do the talking.

      7. He Tries to Appear Taller

One subconscious, deeply ingrained sign that a man is attracted to you is if he tries to make himself appear bigger and taller by stiffening his shoulders and straightening his spine.

When a man is attracted to a woman, he may also adopt a so-called “power pose,” by putting his hands on his hips and pushing up his chest.

1. He Seems to be Nervous, Even If He’s Usually Calm

Have you ever gotten that “butterflies” feeling in your stomach when you’re attracted to someone? Maybe you find yourself distracted or struggling to find the right words?

You might find yourself thinking, “I’m talking, but he doesn’t seem to be listening to me.” If a man is very physically attracted to you, it can be intimidating, and he may experience the same internal anxiety.

This can be one of the most obvious surprising signs to tell that a shy man is attracted to you.

Even a confident man can find that his nerves get the better of him in this situation, especially if they’re attracted to you secretly. If he finds you very attractive, it can leave him flustered. He may stutter, not seem to know what to do with his hands, or fumble with whatever he’s holding on to.

1. He Shows Off When He Gets the Chance

If a man is very attracted to you, he may have the tendency to try to show off in front of you.

This is especially true if he senses he’s got competition. If they’re attracted to you, they might even set up a competitive situation that they know that they’ll win, just to impress you. This is one of several surprising signs a coworker is attracted to you.

1. He’s Always Getting Close to You

When you’re having a conversation together, whether you’re standing around or sitting, you may notice him subtly leaning his body toward you, pointing his feet in your direction, or mimicking your gestures.

A man who is interested in you will try to be in close proximity to you whenever possible.

1. You Put a Smile on His Face

Whether he’s laughing at all your jokes or just seems to always crack a grin in your presence, it’s an indicator that he truly enjoys your company. If he finds you attractive, a man finds smiling and positivity to be very attractive, as do women, and they are especially attracted to someone who laughs at their jokes.

12. He Finds Any Excuse to Keep the Conversation Going

Whether in person or via messages, if he makes an effort to keep you talking it’s a sign that he wants to get close to you. He might engage you in talking about any subject he can think of, just to keep the connection going. He may ask you lots of questions, not only to determine if you’re already taken, but to prolong the conversation for as long as possible.

Keep in mind that just because a man is attracted to you sexually, it doesn’t mean that he’s interested in dating or pursuing a relationship. If you’re on the same page, then there’s no problem. If not, however, it’s important to be realistic about your expectations and clear about what you’re looking for to prevent heartbreak.

Experiencing Dating Difficulties?

Dating can be stressful and that stress can lead to negative thinking patterns, an aversion to dating, and even lowered self-esteem over time.

If they go unchecked, these issues can become deeply rooted in our relationships and the ways we interact with each other.

ReGain Can Help

Often, when our relationships follow unhealthy patterns, it can be hard to see the source of the problem. An experienced therapist can assist you in identifying the attitudes, thoughts, and behaviors that may be holding you back from experiencing a healthy, happy relationship and replacing them with more effective alternatives.

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