Im so stressed about school i want to cry

Agh, stress. That's a real dampener on your vibe. It always knocks on your door when you're behind on a million things to do.

During the crucial times of the school year, you'll probably feel the wrath of stress, perhaps during an exam period or when all your assignments and major work are due. 

You know you need to be doing something, but you just can’t. It seems futile to even try, I mean, will you be able to catch up? You nap and watch Netflix and muck around even though you know you’re only making it worse for yourself. Part of you wants to study but at the same time, the thought of trying to slog through all those notes is overwhelming and so you put it off day after day.

Every time you promise yourself you’ll do it later, or that you’ll get up early and start your work, it’s like adding another boulder of stress onto the pile. It’s paralysing and anxiety-inducing.

So, what do you do when you’ve reached breaking point?

1. Find a way to take a proper break

A lot of the time, the ways we deal with stress don’t give us a real break from our work. We scroll through memes or falling down a rabbit hole of niche youtube videos but at the back of our mind, we're constantly thinking about those deadlines. It's enough to make anyone frazzled.

Find a way to really forget about all the things you have to do and have fun hang out with your friends and laugh at dumb jokes until you’re crying, go for a run or surf, spend some time with your family and talk about everything except for school. Give yourself a chance to remember that there are other things in your life than study and you’ll find it puts your workload into perspective a lot more.

2. Remind yourself why you're doing this

School is a stepping stone towards your dream goal. Seeing it as a means to an end that'll lead you to your dream path will keep your eyes on the prize. 

Keep reminding yourself where you want to end up. Research your dream careers, daydream about them, talk about them. Get inspired and motivated because that's the energy you'll want to knock out some studying. 

If you have absolutely no clue what your dream goal is, don't you stress another hair on your pretty head. We realise how frazzling it can be trying to figure out what you want to do after high school so we've created the Post-School Plan!! (All I can say is I WISH I had this when I was in high school).

3. Stop the stressed thought process

You are what you think. If you keep telling yourself things like this...

  • There’s no way I can study the entire syllabus in time for the exam
  • Oh god, if I can’t study I’m going to fail this exam
  • If I fail I’m going to get a low ATAR
  • Which means I won’t be able to get into uni
  • Everyone will be so disappointed in me
  • I’ll be a massive failure

... You will just spiral into a neg out. See how all those thoughts built on one another? Negative thoughts go nowhere and will just stop you from sending it.

I'll say it again for the people in the back - you are what you think.

So choose positive thoughts dude. When you find yourself thinking like this, take a deep breath, go for a walk or pat your dog. Then flick the switch and think of positive thoughts.

  • I will be able to study enough
  • I'm going to go red hot in my exam
  • My ATAR is going to be stellar...

Fake it 'til you make it! See the cup as half-full rather than half-empty.

4. Do something

Once you’ve nipped that sort of negative thinking in the bud, you have to do something. I know what you’re thinking–‘but guys! That’s why I’m reading this article–because I can’t bloody get anything done’.

But here’s the thing. You don’t need to get everything done right now. You just need to get started with the easiest thing possible. Have a whole essay to write? Just pick one quote that you know you’ll be able to use. Write it down. That wasn’t too hard was it? Now what sort of technique is being used in that quote? Write that down as well. You’re not writing a whole essay–you’re just giving yourself the bare bones to get started.

KISS = Keep it simple stupid. Take everything one step at a time and KISS your stress away.

Simplifying your work will make it heaps easier to manage than thinking about it as one massive task and before you know it you’ll have smashed out half the work without even realising it.

It’s understandable that you’re stressed (we all are). But you need to find ways to fight that stress so you can get through the school year. You got this!!

University can be a stressful experience, as well as being fun and exciting. You may feel stressed about starting university, exams, coursework deadlines, living with people you do not get on with, or thinking about the future.

Stress is a natural feeling, designed to help you cope in challenging situations. In small amounts it can be good, because it pushes you to work hard and do your best, such as during exams.

But if you're feeling very stressed or feel you cannot manage stress, it can lead to mental health problems such as depression and anxiety. It can also affect your academic performance.

Leaving home to start your studies can involve some stressful changes. These might include moving to a new area, meeting new people and managing on a tight budget.

Signs you might be stressed

There are lots of possible signs of stress.

Stress can make you feel:

  • irritable
  • anxious
  • like you cannot enjoy yourself
  • worried a lot of the time

You may start to:

  • have sleep problems
  • find it hard to concentrate
  • bite your nails, pick your skin or grind your teeth
  • snap at people
  • feel short of breath or breathe very fast

Things that can help with stress

Short periods of stress are normal and can often be resolved by something as simple as completing a task which cuts down your workload, or by talking to others and taking time to relax.

It might also help to:

  • Work out what it is that's making you feel stressed. For example, is it exams, money or relationship problems? See if you can change your circumstances to ease the pressure you're under.
  • Try to have a healthy lifestyle. Eat well, get enough sleep, be physically active, cut down on alcohol, and take time to relax as well as working and studying.
  • Read about the 5 steps to mental wellbeing.
  • Avoid drugs, including lots of caffeine - this can have a negative impact on your stress levels and wellbeing.
  • Try not to worry about the future or compare yourself with others.
  • Try relaxation and breathing exercises.
  • Try to plan your time to help you keep track of your work. Break it down into manageable chunks so you can keep up with deadlines.
  • Try talking to a friend, tutor or someone in your family about your stress.
  • Read about how to cope with the stress of exams.

More information

  • For more tips on beating stress, check out these 10 stress busters.
  • Find out more about anxiety, fear and panic.
  • The free mental wellbeing audio guides may help you when your mood is low or you're facing an anxious time in your life.
  • Get advice about dealing with exam stress from Young Minds.
  • Watch mental health and self-care videos for young people on the Every Mind Matters website.

When to get help for stress

You may want to consider getting help for stress if:

  • you're struggling to cope with stress
  • things you’re trying yourself are not helping
  • stress is affecting your life or university work

You could try speaking to friends, family or your university tutor. A GP is also a good place to start and they can help you with advice or access to treatments if you need them.

Find out more about tackling student mental health issues.

Video: stress

In this video, a GP describes what stress is, the physical and mental effects it can have and when to seek help.

Is it normal to cry over school stress?

This can be in response to more than just things that make you sad, too. It's common to cry when you're excited, scared, happy, or even in times of extreme stress. Crying might help you recover from an intense emotion you experience.

What to do when you want to cry because of school?

Distract yourself. If you haven't started crying yet, but think you might, try distracting yourself from your sad thoughts. Play a game on your phone, or try to joke around with a friend, or try engaging deeply in your math book, or listening carefully and fully to what your teacher is saying.

Why do I want to cry when I'm stressed?

Researchers have found that crying stimulates the release of oxytocin and prolactin , two chemicals that can bring your heart rate down and otherwise calm you after a stressful event. But crying doesn't always serve a self-comforting function. If you cried and were comforted, your mood is likely to improve.

What to do when you are so stressed you want to cry?

How can I better cope with emotional stress?.
Take some time to relax: Take some time to care for yourself. ... .
Practice mindfulness: Mindfulness is learning how to focus your attention and become more aware. ... .
Distract your mind and focus on something else: Focus your mind on something other than what's causing your stress..