What age should a toddler stop using a pacifier?

The day you decide to wean your baby from the pacifier might be your first bout of separation anxiety. Whether you go cold turkey or take a gradual approach, the pacifier should go sooner rather than later, says pediatrician .

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“The pacifier can alter the way your child’s jaw develops,” says Dr. Sherman. “Your child’s bottom teeth will be in and the top teeth will be out. Children shouldn’t use pacifiers all day to allow their teeth to grow in the way they’re supposed to, not to mention the problem can get worse over time and lead to a variety of dental issues.”

How long should kids have pacifiers?

It’s OK to offer your baby a pacifier at nap time or bedtime until age 1. If your baby is slightly older, Dr. Sherman notes it’s fine to keep your baby’s pacifier until age 3, but you should only use it to help your baby take a nap.

“The pacifier should only be used on an as-needed basis,” he adds.

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Babies and young toddlers use pacifiers to help themselves sleep or to comfort themselves after having a fit as a way to deal with frustration. However, your young toddler shouldn’t use a pacifier all day when they’re running around the house and when they should be developing language skills. Kids typically begin to talk at age 1 and there’s a chance the pacifier could also slow language development. 

Ways to convince your child they don’t need their pacifier

Most kids stop using pacifiers on their own between ages 2 and 4, but others need help breaking the habit. Dr. Sherman offers the following suggestions:

  1. Make sure there’s an alternate soother. Send your child to bed with his or her favorite blanket or teddy bear instead of a pacifier. Snuggling up with those special items offers them security and comfort throughout the night.
  2. Rock it out. The age-old technique of rocking your baby is another great way to eventually get rid of the pacifier. According to the National Sleep Foundation, the rocking motion works as a natural sleep aid because it reminds your child of being inside the uterus. 
  3. Don’t go cold turkey. When your child is happy and at home, try removing the pacifier. This gradual approach may help instead of quitting cold turkey. Start limiting pacifier use only for mornings or evenings, and then eventually taking it away completely.
  4. Get creative. From “Pacifier Fairies” to throwing going away parties for their binky, there’s always a fun way to creatively get rid of the pacifier once and for all. Plus, it’s a great way for them to get involved. Remember, slow and steady wins the race. 

“You may have to deal with a few days and nights of fussing,” says Dr. Sherman. “Stand your ground. Be the authority.”​

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Your baby is crying. They look very unhappy, their mouth open, eyes squeezed shut, and fists clenched. You've tried everything you can think of to calm your baby down—feeding, walking in the stroller, gently rocking, and even singing. In your palm, you hold what you hope will be the answer: a pacifier.

Experts agree that pacifiers are entirely appropriate for soothing babies. Still, pediatric dentists recommend limiting pacifier time once a child is 2 and eliminating it by age 4 to avoid dental problems. Beyond that, there are no hard-and-fast rules about when and how to say "bye-bye binky." Here's what you need to know to make the right choice for you and your child.

5 Things You Need to Know About Pacifiers

Pacifier Safety

When purchasing a pacifier, be sure to follow the guidelines from the American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP):

  • Look for a one-piece model with a soft nipple (some two-piece pacifiers can break apart).
  • The shield should be made of firm plastic with air holes and should measure at least 1 inch across so your baby can't swallow it.
  • Purchase dishwasher-safe pacifiers and clean them this way frequently until your baby is 6 months; after this, wash pacifiers regularly with hot soap and water.
  • Pacifiers come in two sizes: 0-6 months and 6 months and above; for baby's comfort, make sure pacifiers are the correct size.
  • To prevent the risk of strangulation, never tie a pacifier around your baby's hand, neck, or crib railing. Use a pacifier clip instead.
  • Never use a bottle nipple and ring in place of a pacifier; the nipple can separate from the ring and pose a choking hazard.
  • Inspect pacifiers regularly for damage and replace them if the rubber has changed color or torn.

The Basics of Pacifier Use

Babies are born with an innate need to suck, says Richard Dowell, Ph.D., a pediatric neuropsychologist at Evangelical Community Hospital in Lewisburg, Pennsylvania. Newborns rely on this "suck reflex" not only for sustenance but also for soothing. "Young infants have no other mechanism to control their distress," explains Dowell. "They can't get a drink; they can't ask for a blanket; they can't use their hands to control things. Sucking provides a way for them to calm themselves."

Thus, babies will suck—if not on a pacifier, then on a thumb, finger, bottle, or breast, says Karen Breach, M.D., a pediatrician in Charlotte, North Carolina. If your baby is nursing more than every two hours, they may be using you as a pacifier, she says. In these cases, a pacifier can help satisfy your baby's non-nutritive sucking needs while giving you a needed break, she adds.

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Just be sure breastfeeding is well established before introducing the pacifier, cautions Kellen Glinder, M.D., a pediatrician at the Palo Alto Medical Foundation, in Palo Alto, California. "For babies who do have trouble learning to breastfeed, the pacifier can teach bad habits." Once your baby is an expert at nursing and your breast milk supply is established (typically in a few days), it's fine to bring on the binky.

Pacifier Pros and Cons

While parents worry that binkies may harm their baby's teeth, they typically have no effect on a child under 2. "From a dental-health perspective, it's best to limit the pacifier when a child is 2 and stop it entirely by the time a child is 4," says John Stritikus, DDS, a pediatric dentist in Dickson, Tennessee.

Past age 4, pacifiers can cause an overbite, open bite, or crossbite—problems that affect chewing, speech, and appearance, and often require orthodontics to correct, notes Dr. Stritikus. Unfortunately, so-called orthodontic pacifiers don't make a difference. What matters is the frequency and intensity of the sucking habit.

Pro: Pacifiers offer a way to soothe

The amount of time an infant spends crying increases from birth until about 6 weeks, when a baby cries for an average of three hours a day. "That's a lot of crying stress," says Cynthia R. Howard, M.D., M.P.H., associate professor of pediatrics at the University of Rochester School of Medicine and Dentistry in New York. Sucking undoubtedly helps calm a baby, Dr. Howard adds, which is why pacifiers are so popular.

Pro: Pacifiers may offer some health benefits

The only proven medical benefits linked to pacifiers have been seen in preterm babies. Preemies who suck on binkies gain weight faster, according to a 1992 study published in the Swedish journal Acta Pediatrica. Other research has found that preemies who use pacifiers shortly after birth show earlier sucking patterns and experience fewer health complications.

"Sucking promotes oral-muscle function and muscle development," says Nina L. Shapiro, M.D., assistant professor of pediatric otolaryngology at the University of California, Los Angeles, School of Medicine.

Pro: Pacifiers may reduce the risk of SIDS

Pacifiers are associated with a reduced risk of sudden infant death syndrome (SIDS), according to a 2005 study published in the British Medical Journal. Researchers found that babies who slept with a pacifier had a 90% reduced risk of dying of SIDS. Researchers speculate that pacifiers may keep babies from rolling onto their faces or may keep their tongues forward and away from their airways.

But since a cause-and-effect relationship has not been proven, researchers aren't sure how or even if pacifiers prevent SIDS. In the meantime, the SIDS Alliance refrains from recommending their use.

Con: Pacifiers increase the risk of ear infections

Pacifiers were found to be responsible for 34.5% of ear infections in children under 3 participating in a 2002 study with the University of York. Researchers noted that there appears to be a cause-and-effect relationship between pacifier use and ear aches or ear infections; however, the data is influenced by outside factors such as sociodemographic considerations.

Still, parents would be wise to keep an eye out for ear pain if their baby uses a pacifier. Why the link? Pacifier sucking promotes fluid collection in the ears, which can lead to ear infections, Shapiro says.

Con: Pacifiers may encourage early weaning from the breast

Offering a pacifier to a full-term baby may keep them from what they really need: food. Indeed, several studies have linked pacifier use with early cessation of breastfeeding. However, a study reported in the Journal of the American Medical Association found that pacifiers probably were not to blame for early weaning. Instead, the researchers concluded that their use is a sign of breastfeeding difficulties or reduced motivation to breastfeed.

While the pacifier-breastfeeding connection remains a question, if you do give a binkie, it's best to wait. "If you want to offer a pacifier, wait until four to six weeks, when your milk supply is established," Howard says.

Con: Pacifiers can cause dental problems

Children who suck anything—thumb, finger, or pacifier—past age 2 have a higher risk of developing protruding front teeth and/or a crossbite in baby teeth, according to a study published last year in the Journal of the American Dental Association. In some cases, these problems persist when permanent teeth come in.

What age should a toddler stop using a pacifier?
What age should a toddler stop using a pacifier?


Strategies for Weaning Your Child Off of Pacifiers

Here is where opinions diverge. Marolyn Morford, Ph.D., a developmental psychologist in State College, Pennsylvania, recommends discontinuing the pacifier by a year. "At that age, a child's developmental needs do not include sucking," she says. Dr. Breach allows more latitude: "It's OK to make pacifiers the last thing to go. Once a baby is weaned and potty trained, then focus on stopping the pacifier."

It's a tolerant attitude echoed by Dr. Dowell: "Ultimately, children develop higher level strategies to manage their distress—usually beginning at around age 2," he says. "They phase out their pacifiers as they develop skills to replace them." Most kids willingly surrender their binkies by age 3 or 4.

The Three-Day Plan

Your child can be binky-free in just three days, says Mark L. Brenner, author of Pacifiers, Blankets, Bottles & Thumbs: What Every Parent Should Know About Stopping and Starting. Here's how to do it.

Day 1

In the morning and at bedtime, tell your child that you can see they want to do lots of things that make them older. Tell your child that's a good idea, and that in three days it will be time for them to say goodbye to their pacifiers.

Assure your child that they are ready and can do it and that you'll work together on it. Keep the talk to 30 seconds, and don't sound as if you're asking permission. If your child responds, reflect back on their feelings—"I know you don't want to"—then move on.

Don't worry that your child will become anxious if given advance warning. "That's a myth," says Brenner. "Like adults, children like to prepare themselves physically, psychologically, and emotionally for change."

Day 2

Repeat the same 30-second talk twice daily, only replace "in three days" with "tomorrow." Don't try to sell the idea. Keep your tone and manner matter-of-fact.

Day 3

Remind your child that it's day three and time to gather up the pacifiers. Act as if you're going on a scavenger hunt and ask your child if they'd like to help. Even if they refuse and protests, proceed to collect the pacifiers, place them in a plastic bag, and put them on the front step for "pick-up by the recycling truck."

Explain that the pacifiers will be made into new tires or toys. "Children recognize that recycling is purposeful and intelligent and will be far less upset than if you throw their treasured pacifiers in the trash," says Brenner. This is not to say your toddler won't have a meltdown. Be empathetic but firm, Brenner says, adding that most children get over losing their pacifiers within 48 hours.

The Gradual Approach

Start by removing the pacifier in "zero-distress" situations, like when your child is home, happy, and playing. Once they get used to not having their pacifier at home, eliminate its outdoor use. You don't need to offer an explanation. "We sometimes over-talk to our kids," Dr. Dowell says. "All you need to say is: The pacifier doesn't leave the house."

From here, it's usually a painless leap to: "The pacifier stays in the crib." Convincing your child to make the final break, however, may be more challenging. Some parents use the "Binky Fairy" or Santa to help smooth the transition.

"Near the holidays, you might tell your child that Santa collects all the pacifiers for new babies and brings toys for all the big girls and boys," suggests Ivy Faske, M.D., a pediatrician in Palm Beach Gardens, Florida. Or you could tell your child that the dentist or doctor collects pacifiers for new babies and that if they donate theirs, they'll get a special toy.

Don't be surprised, however, if the child who traded their pacifiers for a new toy suddenly wails for their binky. "You have to be willing to put up with a few really bad nights," says Faske. "But most kids soon find other sources of comfort."

What to Do After the Pacifier

Whatever method you choose, brace yourself for one to five nights of crying, and whatever you do, don't give in. "If you give a child back the pacifier after [they've] cried, screamed, and kicked for 45 minutes, you'll only solidify that such carrying on will get [them] the pacifier," says Dr. Glinder. If you're tempted to cave, remember: Children (and parents) have endured this rite of passage for millennia. "We all get rid of our pacifiers eventually," he says.

Should a 2 year old still have a pacifier?

Experts agree that pacifiers are entirely appropriate for soothing babies. Still, pediatric dentists recommend limiting pacifier time once a child is 2 and eliminating it by age 4 to avoid dental problems.

How do I wean my 2 year old off the pacifier?

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Should a 3 year old still have a pacifier?

The American Academy of Pediatrics does not have an official recommended age for dropping the pacifier, however most experts agree that it's best to wean at any point between 1 and 3 years, said Dr.