What to expect when youre pregnant with a rainbow baby?

Rainbows symbolize hope and renewal, especially for parents who have lost an infant but are now expecting again. While miscarriages are fairly common, moms who have lost a baby often feel alone in their pain. The rainbow baby movement connects them through social media with other parents who understand what they're going through.

What is a rainbow baby?

A rainbow baby is the term coined for a baby born after a miscarriage, stillbirth, medical loss or infant loss from natural causes. A rainbow baby arrives after a rainbow pregnancy, which is often fraught with complex emotions, including fear, relief and even guilt.

While the rainbow baby-to-be is a source of particular joy, parents never forget the baby they lost. They often mention that child — their "angel" — when announcing rainbow babies.

Rainbows have long been a symbol of light and beauty after a storm. So-called rainbow coalitions suggest diverse communities coming together to foster progress and unity.

Rainbows — expressed as words, emojis and general themes — are often found on Facebook groups, baby products, birth announcements and community boards for parents of rainbow babies. They're a symbol for the nervous excitement parents of loss have about a healthy pregnancy, and serve as a shortcut for sharing stories and support.  

A rainbow baby embodies both metaphors: hope and healing after grief and loss, and a pathway for parents seeking solace and empathy through social media, blogs and community forums.

Honoring pregnancy loss and a rainbow baby

If you've lost a child, experts say it's important to honor your grief and to share your mixture of joy and fear when you get pregnant again. Studies find that grief after pregnancy loss is no less intense than that experienced after other losses, and may be felt even longer.

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Moreover, pregnancy loss — especially loss that takes place at an early stage of pregnancy — can be excruciatingly isolating. Some moms say their loss wasn't fully acknowledged by family and friends, while others say they would have liked to have had a funeral for their deceased baby, but weren't given the chance.

Society offers few outlets for parents to express their emotions and honor their pregnancy losses. Don’t be shy about asking your doctor for a referral to a mental health professional or counselor who can help you navigate this difficult time.

Taking care of yourself and giving yourself time to heal is crucial. Women who experience perinatal losses are at higher risk of postpartum depression, post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), depression, anxiety and sleeping disorders.

Don't pressure yourself to recover alone or just "get over it." Instead, actively seek support from your doctor and ask your partner if you have one, family and friends to be especially patient and nurturing. Some parents say it helps to connect with others who have lost a baby in support groups or on social media.

You should also expect to feel a whole range of emotions, including fear, worry, renewed grief, guilt, joy and relief, when you get pregnant with a rainbow baby after a loss. All those feelings are completely normal. It can help to talk to others who have had rainbow pregnancies and babies.

Real parent stories about rainbow babies

While it's impossible to ever fully recover from the loss of a child, those who have seek and share advice and encouragement online. Here are some real mom stories about grieving angels, trying for a rainbow pregnancy and hopes for a rainbow baby:

"I found out we were pregnant with our first baby. We were over-the-moon excited. Throughout my pregnancy, baby had a strong heartbeat and was completely healthy. Unfortunately, two days before I was to be induced, it was determined our sweet baby no longer had a heartbeat and had passed. My heart broke completely. 24 hours later I delivered him naturally and it was immediately determined that he passed because of a cord accident. There was a huge knot that had tightened and his cord was wrapped around his foot ... Fast forward ... I felt so tired, like hit-by-a-train tired ... I was going to wait ... to test, but something inside me [told me] to test now. The second line came up almost immediately. I [was] in shock and so excited and overwhelmed. So many emotions, but excited for our little rainbow baby." — juchwife14

"I [got] pregnant with our rainbow [baby], after my second son was stillborn at 36 weeks. We had our anatomy scan and did genetic testing, baby [was] healthy. Here’s the thing ... I fear people forgetting our angel. Our rainbow [was] due five days before our angel's first birthday." — LauraSawrie 

"I miscarried twice ... both in the first trimester. I got pregnant the second time about three months after the first miscarriage, and was taking birth control pill both times. I got an IUD soon after the second since I knew I couldn't handle a third loss at that time. I had my IUD removed since it was time, began a new relationship and got pregnant ... I [got pregnant] with my rainbow and everything is going perfectly so far. ... I was beginning to think I'd never get to be a mom." — 1inchllama 

"I had a miscarriage. I was only 3-4 weeks pregnant at the time, but it was the worst time of my life. I didn't tell anyone but my husband, who never wanted to talk about it again. I felt alone and sad all the time ... My doc said to wait three months, so I did. We started trying again [and I got] pregnant with a little girl." — sweetpea7731

"The very first time getting pregnant in life, I suffered an ectopic. Luckily my tube was saved. After I had two early miscarriages (talk about grief), I was like, why me? But this past October, I was blessed with my rainbow baby girl! The interesting thing is I had absolutely no problems in the pregnancy, and she's a super happy, healthy [little girl]." — SunRae89

"We lost our boy at 26 weeks. It was devastating, to say the least. We still miss him every day. But God came and blessed us again just one month after. I [got] pregnant with a very healthy, very lively baby girl!" — MaurisaLee

Pregnancy announcements for rainbow babies

There are as many ways to announce a new baby as there are parenting styles. Some go the traditional route, with a carefully penned note on cream-colored paper sent snail mail. Others enlist the family dog to share the news on Instagram.

If you are a parent-to-be of a rainbow baby, it's natural to be more on the cautious side. After all, you may have shared the news of the baby you lost — and then had to explain the heartbreaking reality to everyone later.

When and how you announce is always up to you. Some parents of rainbow babies prefer to hold off until they're into their second trimester, just to keep all those emails, texts, calls and congratulatory notes at bay until the rainbow is in a safe and healthy place, while others can't wait to share the good news right away.

From the What to Expect editorial team and Heidi Murkoff, author of What to Expect When You're Expecting. What to Expect follows strict reporting guidelines and uses only credible sources, such as peer-reviewed studies, academic research institutions and highly respected health organizations. Learn how we keep our content accurate and up-to-date by reading our medical review and editorial policy.

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