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Archived Matched with a 21 yr old hottie and her profile says "I'm here for a good time not a long time". How would you proceed. I'm thinking not overly crude, but somewhat sexual might go over well, but my text skills are lacking. Any ideas? This thread is archived New comments cannot be posted and votes cannot be cast level 2 Hmmm... I don't think that's my style, hahaha level 1 "How about a good time that is also long ;)" also eggplant emoji and water drip emoji. level 1 If you want to go big: How many planets are in the solar system? 7, after I destroy Uranus level 1 "I am here for a good time, but making it short or long is up to you." level 1 I promise you that's a bot level 1 I mean, if she's quoting Drake like I think she is then you could try to respond by continuing it or just pointing out that you "caught that reference." Literally anything but some variation of just "hi" gives you a decent chance. level 2 I'm not following Rule 1 and 2 as well as I could be... so "Hi" probably won't cut it.
About CommunityA community for discussing the online dating app Tinder. Sharing conversations, reviewing profiles and more. Commonly seen on Tinder bios (as well as other dating apps) to denote that the user is not looking for anything serious (I.e. a relationship). Instead, they are looking for a casual fling/hook up/just sex. *opens
tinder* Short definition: just looking for sex by AldrichAmes April 11, 2018 Flag Want to supercharge your confidence and communication skills in a supportive environment? Our members-only program, The C Method Academy is now open for registration until 1 November 2019! Click here for more info and to register! Do you get really awkward when someone compliments you? I used to. I blame it on my inner perfectionist. Plus, in Australian culture, we tend to believe that accepting a compliment means you have a ‘big head’ or are ‘full of yourself’ – so we deflect, dismiss and talk ourselves down. Rising up above others is seen as a big no-no. And then I started hanging out with Americans, who do the opposite – they push each other up. At first, I didn’t know what to say to their gushing comments of “Christina you’re amazing!” and “I love your podcast!” and “You’re the most creative person I know!” …but after a while, I learned to take it. After all, it felt good! And I started giving more compliments to others (when deserved, of course. I ain’t blowing smoke up anyone’s ass!) But do you know what happened?I got responses like: “Oh, it was nothing!” Does this sound like you? If so, keep reading. Here’s why you suck at accepting compliments:
But do you know what happens when you dismiss a compliment?1. You reject that person’s generositySomeone has just gone out of their way to say something nice to you. They didn’t have to do that. Do you think if they didn’t mean it they would say it? (Of course, there are always people who try to suck up to you…but hopefully you can see through it!) If you say “Oh, no I’m not”, you’ve essentially rejected that nice gesture. Don’t make someone else feel rejected because of your own shitty insecurities. Reward them for going out of their way to say something nice. Think about it this way: if someone gives you a gift, do you throw it back at them and splutter “Oh there is no way in hell I deserve this! Give it to Mike instead!”? Um, no. ‘Cos that’s just rude. Don’t reject someone’s compliment gift. 2. You make THEM feel worse about their own abilitiesI went rock climbing with a friend who had been doing it for years. As a newbie, I was amazed by his skills. I said “Wow, you are SO good at that!” and he immediately said “Oh, nah, I’m nowhere near as good as these guys”, indicating to some spider monkey lookalikes who were shimmying up a 45 degree overhang – backwards. Well, if you’re not any good…then what does that make me?? I thought. You don’t have to be the best in the world to be impressive to others. Remember that your ability is always relative. For example, I may not be a good public speaker compared to, say, Tony Robbins, but compared to the average person, I’m pretty good. 3. You’re giving yourself negative reinforcementI’ve learned that negative self talk can be really detrimental to our success. The more you talk yourself down, the more likely you’ll start to believe that you’re no good. And if you believe you’re no good, it’s very difficult to improve and succeed. So if you say “No I’m not, no I’m not, no I’m not” every time someone compliments you, those negative words will ingrain themselves in your brain and make you feel worse about yourself. So stop that. (Side note: if you’re saying “No I’m not”, knowing full well that you are, but you’re just fishing for more compliments…you need to learn how to be ok with yourself. Seriously. The best way to get approval is to not need it.) Firstly, resist the urge to say “No I’m not!” and instead simply say “Thank you”. You can then follow up by giving praise to something or someone who’s helped you: FRIEND: “Hey, I love your dress!” NOT: “Oh please, it’s old. But YOU look gorgeous!” COLLEAGUE: “Great job with your presentation today.” NOT: “Oh my God, I was so nervous. I’m so glad that’s over.” DINING BUDDY: “Wow, this food is so delicious!” NOT: “I don’t know, I don’t think it’s salty enough. Is it salty enough? It’s not salty enough. Here’s the salt. Is that better? Dammit, I should have put more salt.” But the best way accept a compliment?OWN IT.If you’re really good at something and you’ve worked hard for it, then for f**k’s sake BE OK WITH THE FACT THAT YOU’RE GOOD AT IT. You don’t have to be a douche about it. There’s a difference between saying “Thanks, I am pretty good, aren’t I?” and “Thanks, I’m really proud of what I’ve achieved.” And if someone’s going to think less of you because you’re proud of an achievement, well, I think they deserve an un-friending anyway. Here’s how to own it: COLLEAGUE: “Wow, you did so well in that 10km fun run!” FRIEND: “I wish I could play guitar like you. You’re amazing!” CAR PASSENGER: “Nice parallel park.” (Ok, maybe you can be a douche every now and again ;)) I strongly encourage you to give it a go. The more you practice receiving compliments gracefully, the easier it will get. And then it will become second nature. And your confidence in your own abilities will grow. So go out there, own what you’re good at, and say ‘thank you’. You deserve it, rock star! (Oh, and if you want to further build your confidence when receiving compliments and making small talk, join my free Small Talk Made Simple class. Simply pop your name and email in the box below!) |