What does it mean when your dogs lays on you?

I’ll frequently lie down for a quick nap on the floor, on the back deck, or even on the grass in the backyard, especially if there’s a bit of sunny warmth to enjoy. Inevitably, one of my two seventy-five pound Golden Retrievers lays down with me, wiggling and squirming and pressing until they are as close to me as they can get. For me, as for any real “dog person”, it’s a nice experience. Many others report  having experienced the closeness of having their dog lie right against them, or perhaps even on top of them, and many report that their dog leans against them frequently.

Why do dogs lie so close to you? What drives them to want to be so close? All these I-want-to-be-close type behaviours can be explained by considering the real nature of our domesticated dogs, and the fact that all canines are pack animals.

Understanding the Canine Pack Instincts

Next time you have the opportunity, watch a litter of newly born puppies. You’ll notice that when they aren’t nursing or crawling around, they will likely be sleeping in a “dog pile” with their littermates. Right from birth, dogs have the instinct to seek and feel comfort and security by being close to their packmates.

The world can be a frightening, unpredictable place, and being part of a pack makes it all a lot easier.

When your dog cuddles up with you, they are acknowledging that you are a member of its pack. It’s a sign of affection, closeness, and connection, and your ‘furkid’ is saying that it feels safe to be with you. It’s a continuation of the bonding process that began when you and your dog first met each other. Your dog is reassured by your presence and it needs constant confirmation that you are there for him. To provide this reassurance and confirmation, allow your dog to remain close beside you for at least a few minutes, as pushing them away could cause your dog to wonder about your role in its life, especially if it happens repeatedly. Being close to you makes them happy, makes them feel safe, and gives them comfort. Never lose sight of the fact that to your dog, you’re not a human, but rather an odd, two legged member of his pack!

What does it mean when your dogs lays on you?

Are Certain Dog Breeds More Affectionate?

While on the subject of canine affection, we were wondering whether there is any evidence that certain dog breeds show more affection to their humans than others. A search of the internet yielded numerous lists, with titles such as “Top 10 Affectionate Dog Breeds”, “The 15 Most Affectionate Breeds”, and even “The 25 Dog Breeds Known to Be Affectionate”. This is no means scientific, but we had a bit of fun reviewing about ten such lists, and came up with the “Top Six”. Here they are, and let the arguments begin:

  1. Golden Retriever
  2. Collie
  3. English Bulldog
  4. Labrador Retriever
  5. Cavalier King Charles Spaniel
  6. Bichon Frise

If you have one of these super affectionate doggies in your family, feel free to stroll by and we’d be happy to volunteer some doggy hugs!

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Happy Dog Cuddles!!

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What does it mean when your dogs lays on you?

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If your dog has been sleeping or laying on top of you a lot you might be wondering why and what you can do about it. This post will show you common causes and what you can do about them.

So, why does my dog sleep on top of me? Possible causes are that your dog feels more comfortable there, your dog is being protective, your dog wants extra attention, your dog is being affectionate, your dog has some separation anxiety, or that it makes your dog feel safer.

Since there are many different possible causes, it would help to consider what would make them more likely. Once you have a good idea of the cause, it should become a lot easier to figure out what to do about it.

Below are a number of common causes and what would make them more likely.

Your dog is more comfortable when sleeping on you

The cause could be that it finds sleeping on top of you as being more comfortable. This would be more likely if it chooses to sleep there instead of in its bed, if it rests its head on you and if it does not seem to show any abnormal behavior.

Encouraging the behavior

It could be the case that you have encouraged it to do it by giving it things it wants when it does it. If you give it things such as back or belly rubs, when it sleeps on you, it will likely do it more in order to get more rewards. Instead, it would help to get it off you and to reward it when it lays down the way you want it to.

Your dog is being protective

The reason why it does it might be that it is being protective. This would be more likely if it also becomes protective when you are around other people or animals. It would also be more likely if it tends to do it when there are other people around and if it faces the main door when doing it.

Your dog wants attention

The cause could also be that it is trying to get extra attention from you. This would be more likely if it tends to do it during the day, when you have not given it attention for a while and if you tend to give it extra attention when it does it.

Your dog feels safer

Most dog breeds were bred to work alongside their owners and feel more secure when they are in a group. Sleeping or laying on top of you could be helping it to feel safer since it will make it feel like it is in a group and less vulnerable.

Your dog is being affectionate

It could be the case that it is just being affectionate. This would be more likely if it tends to get you to rub its stomach or back before going to sleep.

Your dog has some separation anxiety

The cause might be that it has some separation anxiety and it wants to know when you are leaving. This would be more likely if it tends to show signs of being anxious when you are about to leave and if it tends to sleep or lay on you, during the day, only before you have left home and not after you have arrived home.

Your dog is waiting for something

The cause could also be that it is waiting to get something from you. This would be more likely if it tends to do it more at around the same time that you would normally give it something such as food or a walk.

Things to consider

Below are some things to consider when figuring out the main reason why your dog has been doing it.

What else happened when it first started doing it

If it did not always sleep or lay on top of you, it would help to consider what else happened when it first started doing it.

For example, if it also started showing signs of separation anxiety and you started leaving it alone for longer time periods, it could be the case that it has been doing it due to separation anxiety.

What is different when it does not do it

If it tends to do it more at certain times, it would also help to consider what is different about the timing.

For example, if it tends to do it more at around the same time that you feed it, it might be waiting for food.

What to do about my dog sleeping / laying on top of me?

If you want to get your dog to stop laying on top of you, below are some options that you have.

Positive reinforcement training

One option would be to train your dog to lay somewhere else with the use of positive reinforcement training. This is where you encourage it to behave in a certain way by rewarding it when it shows signs of behaving that way.

To use it to get it to lay or sleep in a certain spot you could do something such as the following:

  • Make the location, you want it to sleep in, comfortable.
  • Get your dog to stand there and reward it
  • Encourage your dog to lay down by giving it a treat
  • Continue to repeat the process a few times daily until it realizes that laying there results in it getting rewards

Avoid encouraging the behavior

As mentioned above, it might be the case that it has learned that it gets rewards when it does it. Instead, it would help to train it to sleep where you want it to and to reward it when it goes to that spot.

Give it a comfortable place to lay down

It would also help to encourage it to sleep or lay where you want it to by making the area comfortable. It should be cool, not too bright at night, quiet and there should be space for it to lie down.

Reduce its separation anxiety

As mentioned above, it could be doing it because it has some separation anxiety. It would help to try to reduce how anxious it gets by giving it exercise, letting it pee and feeding it before leaving so that it does not have to wait so long.

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